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28Sep/107

Love Your Family, Choose Your Peers

It's a dilemma many of us face at some point in our lives: we want to grow and progress in a certain area but the people we hang out with just aren't into it, or sometimes are downright against it.
You know what I'm talking about: the new exercise routine, the healthy food diet, or the new direction you're taking in your lifestyle altogether.

You know that if you are going to make the kind of progress that you want, you're going to have to shed the things that hold you back, but your friends and family aren't something that you can just trade like baseball cards.
There's no easy solution when it comes to friends who you love but are holding you back, but you have to make some decisions.
The way I see it is as the title says: Love your family, choose your peers.
Your family are the people that God put you with, so love and respect them always--same with your friends.
But here is where you must make a distinction:

Your Peer Group

These are the people who you respect and want to be like, and who you want to spend as much time with as possible. When forming your peer group, which may take some time, strive to be the dumbest one in it. This is not to mean that you should try to be stupid, but that you surround yourself with people who are more skilled or smarter than you in some way.
Many studies have proven that whether we like it or not, we will become like the people we spend the most time with.

Choose carefully.

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  1. very good Ken, you’re quite the world traveller these days, aren’t you? looks from here like you’re getting a lot out of these seminars.
    would love to hear a bit about your plans & projects when you have a minute.
    lots of love,
    yvan

  2. I agree with you Ken. It’s important to spend time with the people who will help you to reach your goals. Thanks for having us over, it was great seeing you and your family.

  3. Hmmm… I think you should look at each person and ask, “What can I learn from this person?” You’re always dumber than each other person you meet in SOME way. There is always something of value that you can learn from them. I think to look for that, bring it out in people, and treasure that in them is the way to surround yourself with people who inspire and invigorate you.

  4. Thanks Kylie, that’s a very good point and I agree with you completely and conversely you have to guard yourself from those who are a negative influence on you, for example someone who complains way too much.

  5. Pretty nice post. I just stumbled upon your blog and wanted to say that I have really enjoyed browsing your blog posts. In any case I’ll be subscribing to your feed and I hope you write again soon!

  6. I think I can relate Ken, good point! I suppose even negative people can teach you something…but I get what you’re saying.

  7. Love your family choose your peers.. Reposted it :)


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