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12Oct/102

Commitment Starts When the Fun Stops

While in San Diego earlier this month I had the privilege to meet an amazing woman: firefighter, Eco Challenge and Adventure Racing competitor Robyn Benicasa, who gave a very lively and meaningful speech to the Tony Robbins Leadership Boot Camp audience.

We've all heard so many times about what it takes to be a leader, what it means to have true commitment, and all the virtues of the good things in life. But listening to someone who has a track record as a true winner, someone who has gone through the most intense sports competition in the world, had hip replacement surgery, and kept going on through it made all the difference in the world to me.

All these words, things I've heard before meant a lot more to me all of a sudden.

One quote she said: "commitment starts when the fun stops", stood out to me.

When we get started on something new, a project, a team, or whatever, the morale is high, and everyone is having fun, but when the fun stops and the hard times come is when you see who is truly committed to the team, and who the true leaders are.

Click this link to see video of Robyn.

23Aug/103

A Cancelled Breakthrough

Some of you may have guessed by now that I'm a bit of a Tony Robbins fan, and as such am disappointed at NBC's decision to pull the plug on his reality show "Breakthrough with Tony Robbins" after only two episodes.

It brings me back to the reality that no matter how hard you try, and no matter how much good you do to bring happiness to others, if it ain't popular with the big money-making (network) boys, then you're out of business, at least their businesses.

Another reality that stabbed through my fluffy feel good thoughts is that he's just not mean enough. Increasingly each year more mean, cutting, and just plain rude shows are climbing TV's popularity charts. What is the object of most reality shows these days? To win at all costs, and the more you cut down and sabotage your competition, the more popular the show is.

Tony's show is about a win-win situation where everyone is happy in the end, but most people want to see someone lose, someone humiliated, someone hurt, or even physically injured.

My only wish now is that another network will pick up the remaining 4 episodes and market them to a more receptive audience that will appreciate the quality content that Tony provides.

If at first you don't succeed, try, try again.

--Thomas H. Palmer

16Aug/101

Fricking Fat People

Do you have any bad habits that you know you need to kick, but haven't done it yet? Maybe it's biting your nails, overeating, or overspending. Whatever the case is, the reason you haven't been able to kick that bad habit yet is because you have not associated enough pain with the bad habit to make it unbearable to you anymore. Instead you came up with euphemisms for it, saying stuff like "I'm just a nervous guy so I bite my nails," or "It runs in the family--we're terrible with numbers so we always overspend."

At UPW Tony Robbins said of overweight people: "Don't tell me that you're "a little on the chunky side," or "have big bones"! What a joke! What are big bones anyhow? Tell me and do yourself a favor by saying "I'm fucking fat!" Does that make you feel uncomfortable? Well I sure hope it does because as long as you keep making yourself feel good for doing things you know are not good for you, then you will not make progress in your life. I'm not afraid to tell you the truth in saying that you're a fucking fat person."

So to all my friends out there, do yourself a favor and say it how it is. Stop making yourself feel even slightly comfortable doing things that are not the absolute BEST for you. Settle for nothing less than what you know you need to make that next hurdle in your life.

Stop telling yourself that you will try to improve later when you can. Learn to associate pain by using language to paint a different picture of your reality. Learn to hate it!

As Tony Robbins so elegantly put it: "Say it out loud! I'M FUCKING FAT AND I FUCKING HATE IT!"

25Mar/102

Stomping on Fire – BareFooted!

On the first day of UPW right after the doors opened nearly 4,000 people rushed into and filled the main hall to see Tony Robbins. What we found inside was a dazzling array of lights, smoke effects, and a seriously cool audio system. There were four huge screens displaying cuts of music videos and live edits of dancers on the stage. The song 'Life Will Never Be the Same' by Haddaway blared on the sound system as we all started clapping and swaying to the music.

This is how it all started.

Then Tony came on stage. The room exploded with energy as he joined the dancers on stage and added his own style of larger-than-life presence to the scene.

Things settled down after about 20 minutes as we moved into the main part of the classes--if that's what you'd call them. These classes were peppered with sporadic back-massages, breathing exercises, and simultaneous shouts of 'YES!' by all 4,000 of us. Reminded me of the movie 'Yes Man' with Jim Carey.

The main topics covered were about your subconscious being the most powerful deciding factor in your decision-making processes, and how controlling it is the key to getting the extra-ordinary results that you want in your life.

Physiology was another big topic on day one. It was demonstrated to us that our physical position, posture, breathing patterns, facial expressions and the angle or our heads were not just a reflection of what's going on in our minds, but also controlling our very thoughts and feelings. In other words, if you can put yourself into a physical state that exudes confidence, you will feel confident. If you jump up and down, shake your fists in the air, yell at the top of your lungs the word 'YES!', then it's pretty likely the answer will be yes.

And that's exactly what we did. We each paired up with someone who we never met before and told them our deepest darkest fears. Things in life that we know we need to overcome, but for one reason or another haven't yet, and all rooted in fear.

We faced each other and shouted "I OWN YOU!" and had to outdo our partner in whatever way we could.

Now we were ready.

Marching out the doors and chanting 'Yes! Yes! Yes!' toward the burning hot coals we knew we would soon face, we were unstoppable. The hot coals were a metaphor for the thing in life we had to overcome, and stepping fearlessly across them was symbolic of making that hurdle, taking the plunge and doing what you thought was impossible or too difficult for you to do.

I WALKED ON HOT COALS BAREFOOTED, AND I DIDN'T FEEL A THING!
Seriously, I did not feel any heat, nothing at all! After I got to the other side I found my partner and we seriously celebrated, I mean jumping like mad, hooting and hollering, and hugging like there was no tomorrow. When I crossed the hot coals, I had so much adrenaline going that I went without any hesitation whatsoever, and I didn't just walk. I stomped with all confidence that it could not hurt me in the state I was in. I felt as if my obstacle, my greatest fear was reduced to ashes under my feet. If I could do this, I could do anything!

My partner and I walked back to the building together feeling energized, empowered, and like nothing on earth could stop us from getting what we want in life.


20Mar/102

Blame It On Tony!

I'm back and I'm excited! I promised my readers that I would post a report on UPW when I came home from the US, but at the time I didn't realize the tremendous amount of information that I would be exposed to.

There is NO way that I can put it all in one blog post, so I'm going to do it in smaller sections as it comes to me.

For this introductory post I'm going to freewheel and gab about some of the things that stood out to me, odds and ends that I noticed here and there on my trip.

Change! First of all I will state that this is going down in my biography (if one ever gets written) as a turning point, a pivotal moment in my life. It may not take place immediately in the physical, but my thinking and my reasoning has been rewired and this will inevitably bring change to all aspects of my life.

The energy! I have never in my life met a more energetic person-Tony Robbins. I didn't find out until day four about his health and diet plan, which he accredits it to (more on that in a later post.) This guy is jumping around, flailing his arms, pacing like mad, speaking with passion and emotion, & never looking tired from 8:00 AM to 2:00 AM! But even more amazing is that I made it through the classes not falling alseep, but feeling energized throughout the day - without caffeine!

The love! The people who attended, of which there were nearly 4,000, seemed like the friendliest, most lovable bunch I've met. There were moments where we had to share our deepest darkest fears to total strangers, but it seemed like the natural thing to do because I felt a kinship with these people who like me were also looking for change in their lives.

"You've gotta be a baby to go to heaven!" Tony kept telling us all to go full-on, without resevation, to express different feelings, and to act like little kids, using our bodies and voices to the max without reservation. This was such a liberating experience for me, as I've been trying for years to stifle these urges and act more grown up. Damn that! I'm going to live life out loud even if I look like a fool!

The music! The music he used in the sessions were mostly older numbers, but real classics-& loaded with energy! They now all have new meaning to me, and are anchors in my memory associated with those experiences every time I listen.

I have so much more that I want to share with you, but it will have to wait till a later date, but I can give you a peek at some of the things I have in mind for the future.

The Firewalk Experience
Health vs. Fitness
How to use pain to your advantage
Breaking negative patterns
Wealth vs. Riches

I know that there are a lot more in my head, but I'm still digesting much of it now and may take some time to put them down in writing.